Aug 4, 2017

Two Castle Builders


A little boy is on his knees scooping and packing the sand with plastic shovels into a bright blue bucket. Then he upends the bucket on the surface and lifts it. And, to the delight of the little architect, a castle tower is created.

All afternoon he will work. Spooning out the moat. Packing the walls. Bottle tops will be sentries. Popsicle sticks will be bridges. A sandcastle will be built.

A man is in his office. At his desk he shuffles papers into stacks and delegates assignments. He cradles the phone on his shoulder and punches the keyboard with his fingers. Numbers are juggled and contracts are signed and much to the delight of the man, a profit is made.

All his life he will work. Formulating the plans. Forecasting the future. Annuities will be sentries. Capital gains will be bridges. An empire will be built.

Two builders of two castles. They have much in common. They shape granules into grandeur. They see nothing and make something. They are diligent and determined. And for both the tide will rise and the end will come.

Yet that is where the similarities cease. For the boy sees the end while the man ignores it. Watch the boy as the dusk approaches.

As the waves near, the wise child jumps to his feet and begins to clap. There is no sorrow. No fear. No regret. He knew this would happen. He is not surprised. And when the great breaker crashes into his castle and his masterpiece is sucked into the sea, he smiles. He smiles, picks up his tools, takes his father’s hand, and goes home.

The grownup, however, is not so wise. As the wave of years collapse on his castle he is terrified. He hovers over the sandy monument to protect it. He blocks the waves from the walls he has made. Salt-water soaked and shivering he snarls at the incoming tide.

“It’s my castle,” he defies.

The ocean need not respond. Both know to whom the sand belongs…

I don’t know much about sandcastles. But children do. Watch them and learn. Go ahead and build, but build with a child’s heart. When the sun sets and the tides take – applaud. Salute the process of life and go home.

Jul 28, 2017

Four Burning Candles

In a room there were four candles burning. The ambiance was so soft you could hear them talking. The first one said, “I am PEACE, however nobody can keep me lit. I believe I will go out.” It’s flame rapidly diminishes and goes out completely. The second one says, “I am FAITH. Most of all, I am no longer indispensable, so it does not make any sense that I stay lit any longer.”When it finished talking a breeze softly blew on it putting it out.

Sadly, the third candle spoke “I am LOVE. I don’t have the strength to stay lit. People put me aside and don’t understand my importance. They even forget to love those who are nearest to them.” And waiting no longer it goes out.

Suddenly a child entered the room and saw three candles not burning. “Why are you not burning you are supposed to stay lit till the end.”

Saying this the child began to cry. Then the fourth candle said, “Don’t be afraid, while I am still burning we can re-light the other candles, I am HOPE.”

With shining eyes, the child took the candle of Hope and lit the other candles.

The flame of Hope should never go out from our life so that each of us can maintain HOPE, FAITH, PEACE and LOVE. Hope never abandons you. You abandon hope. Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.

Jul 21, 2017

Learn to Appreciate!!

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very helpful, kindhearted, and generous. One day while walking on a dusty road, this man saw a purse, so he picked it up and noticed that the purse was empty. Suddenly a woman with a policeman showed up and got him arrested.

The woman kept asking where he had hidden her money but the man replied, “It was empty when I found it, Ma’am.” The woman yelled at him, “Please give it back, it’s my son’s school fees.”  The man noticed that the woman really felt sad, so he handed over all his money.  He could say that the woman was a single mother.  The man said, “Take this, sorry for the inconvenience.”  The woman left and a policeman held the man for further questioning.

The woman was very happy but when she counted her money, later on, it was lot more than she had lost, she was shocked.  One day while the woman was going to pay her son’s  fees she noticed that a skinny man was walking behind her.  She thought that he may rob her, so she approached a policeman standing nearby.  He was the same policeman, who she took along to enquire about her purse.  The woman told him about the man following her, but suddenly they saw that man collapsing.  They ran towards him and realized that he was the same man who they had arrested a few days back for stealing her purse.

He looked very weak and the woman was confused.  The policeman said to the woman, “He didn’t return your money, he gave you his money that day.  He wasn’t the thief but hearing about you son’s school fees, he felt sad and gave you his money.”  Later, they helped the man stand up, and the man told the woman, “Please go ahead and pay your son’s school fees. I saw you and followed you to be sure that no one steals your son’s school fees.”   The woman was speechless.

Life gives you strange experiences. We end up making wrong judgments in our anger, desperation and frustration. However, when you get a second chance, correct your mistakes and return the favor. Be Kind and generous...                 

Jul 14, 2017

Invisible divider...

During a research experiment a marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank.

As you would expect, the shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.
The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fiberglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.

Again, the shark quickly attacked.  This time, however, the shark slammed into the fiberglass divider and bounced off.  Undeterred, the shark kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail. Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second partition.  Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark gave up.

This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks.  Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually the shark got tired of hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.

The marine biologist then removed the fiberglass divider, but the shark didn’t attack.  The shark was trained to believe a barrier existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they wished, free from harm.

Many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give up and stop trying. Like the shark in the story, we believe that because we were unsuccessful in the past, we will always be unsuccessful. In other words, we continue to see a barrier in our heads, even when no ‘real’ barrier exists between where we are and where we want to go.

Jul 7, 2017

Rubber & Glass Balls

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life. How?

◾Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

◾Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

◾Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

◾Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.

◾Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

◾Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us each together.

◾Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

◾Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

◾Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.

◾Don’t forget that a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

◾Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.

◾Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

Jun 30, 2017

Heavy Glass...

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: ”How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” 

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stress. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

Jun 23, 2017

The Retired Teacher...

Once upon a time, there were two neighbors living next to each other. One of them was a retired teacher and another was an insurance agent who had a lot of interest in technology. Both of them had planted different plants in their garden. The retired teacher was giving a small amount of water to his plants and didn’t always give a full attention to them, while the other neighbor interested in technology, had given a lot of water to his plants and looked after them too well.

The retired teacher’s plants were simple but looked good. The insurance agent’s plants were much fuller and greener. One day, during the night, there was a heavy rain and a wind due to a minor storm. Next morning, both of the neighbors came out to inspect the damage to their garden. The neighbor who was an insurance agent saw that his plants came off from the roots and were totally destroyed. But, the retired teacher’s plants were not damaged at all and were standing firm.

The insurance agent neighbor was surprised to see it, he went to the retired teacher and asked, “We both grew the same plants together, I actually looked after my plants better than you did for yours, and even gave them more water. Still, my plants came off from the roots, while yours didn’t. How is that possible?”

The retired teacher smiled and said, “You gave your plants more attention and water, but because of that they didn’t need to work themselves for it.  You made it easy for them.  While I gave them just an adequate amount of water and let their roots search for more and  because of that, their roots went deeper and that made their position stronger.  That is why my plants survived”.

The only time that you grow strong and sound is when you are in  an uncomfortable phase in life. Don’t settle for anything that’s easy .Keep growing through hard times  and you will find your roots stronger .

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

Jun 16, 2017

Chopsticks...

Wishing to encourage her young son’s progress on the piano, a mother took the small boy to a concert of the famous pianist, Paderewski. After they were seated, the mother spotted a friend in the audience and walked down the aisle to greet her. Seizing the opportunity to explore the wonders of the concert hall, the little boy rose and eventually explored his way through a door marked “No Admittance.”

When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that her son was missing. Suddenly, the curtains parted and the spotlights focused on the impressive Steinway piano on stage.

In horror, the mother saw her little boy sitting at the keyboard. Innocently, he then began to play "Chopsticks".  The crowd reacted with anger, "Take the boy away!", "Who has brought this little boy to the concert?!".

When Paderewski heard the uproar backstage, he grabbed his coat and rushed to the stage. Realizing what was going on, he went to the piano, Reaching around the little boy from behind, the master began to improvise a counter melody to “chopsticks.” As the two of them played together, Paderewski kept whispering in the boy's ear, “Keep going. Don't quit, son... don't stop... don't stop.”

Together, the old master and the little boy transformed an embarrassing situation into a wonderfully creative experience. The audience was mesmerized.

There will always be a way to you turn your feeble attempts into true masterpieces. Next time when you feel that you aren’t inching towards your goals , when you feel your effort doesn’t get you through, when you feel that you shouldn’t have started doing what you are into ,remember  “Keep going. Don't quit, ... don't stop... don't stop.”  

Jun 9, 2017

Live to the fullest

An old man was walking down a lonely street. He could barely walk and he was struggling. So as he was walking, he ended up falling. The man still kept walking with great struggle.

A Stranger watching all this - a young man in his thirties went over to help him. The Old man was grateful for the unexpected aid .Both the men got into a casual  conversation. Once they reached the old man’s destination ,he waved a good bye and thanked the stranger enough for his help .

As the Old man was walking away , the stranger told him "You should stay inside where it is safe. It's dangerous walking down these streets". He turned around and replied, " I love walking and I love walking way more than I am afraid of falling". Perplexed, the young man asked ,"Well, what about your safety? Don't you want to live long enough?"

The Old Man replied,"Living means doing what you love to do. If I have to fall here and there to do what I want to do in life, then so be it."

“The Cost of not following your heart to do things that you want to do, is spending rest of your life wishing you had” and the Old man is abundantly right.

Living means doing what you love to do !!!

Stay alive and live life to the fullest!!

Jun 2, 2017

Be your own Judge...

Once upon a time there was a painter who had just completed his course under a great master. This young artist decided to assess his skills to give his best stroke on the canvas. He took 3 days and painted beautiful scenery.

Based on his masters advice he decided to display it on a busy street-square of the small town he was resident of. He wanted people's opinion about his caliber and painting skills.

He put his creation at a busy street-crossing with a board below the painting which read-"Gentlemen, I have painted this piece. Since I'm new to this profession I might have committed some mistakes, please put a cross wherever you spot a mistake in the painting…

When he came back in the evening to collect his painting he was completely shattered to see that whole canvas was filled with cross marks and some people had even written their comments on the painting.

Disheartened and heartbroken he ran to his masters place and burst into tears. Sobbing inconsolably he told his master about what happened and showed the pathetic state of his creation which was filled with marks everywhere. Such was the state of the painting that even the colors were not visible, one could only see cross marks and correction remarks.

This young artist felt rejected and was disheartened.

The Master smiled and suggested "My Son, I will prove that you are a great artist and have learnt to paint flawlessly.

Just paint exactly similar painting once again and give it to me.

Will you do that for your master?.."

Young artist reluctantly agreed and two days later he presented an exact replica of his earlier painting to his master. The Master took that gracefully and smiled.

They reached the same street-square and displayed the same painting exactly where the artist had placed it a few days earlier. Now master took out another board which read -"Gentlemen, I have painted this piece. Since I'm new to this profession I might have committed some mistakes in my strokes - I have put a box with colors and brushes just below. Please do me a favor. If you see a mistake, kindly pick up the brush and correct it."

The Master and the disciple walked back home. They both visited the place same evening. The Young painter was surprised to see that there was not a single correction done so far. But master wasn't satisfied and he told his disciple "May be one day was too little a time for people to come up with ideas and take out time out of their busy schedules to correct it so let us keep it here for one more day. Tomorrow is Sunday, so we can expect some corrections coming in."

Next day again they visited and found painting remained untouched.. They kept the painting there for a week and still no correction came in!

The Master finally said,” It just takes a stroke of a paint brush to make a cross mark in a painting but a great deal of knowledge to evaluate and correct it “

" If you take the world to be your judge, you would always be disappointed. People tend to make judgments, pass remarks on others without any authenticity and seriousness. Be your own judge and trade your virtues with the world for an equitable and fair consideration. You can be assured that you would never be disappointed with yourself or your work."

May 26, 2017

Speak Positive

A man joined a monastery in which the monks were allowed to speak only two words every seven years. After the first seven years had passed, the new initiate met with the abbot, who asked him, "Well, what are your two words?"

"Food's bad", replied the man, who then went back to his silence.

Seven years later the clergyman asked, "What are your two words now?"

"Bed's hard", the man responded.

Seven years later - twenty-one years after his initial entry into the monastery - the man met with the abbot for the third and final time. "And what are your two words this time?" the abbot asked.

"I quit."

"Well, I'm not surprised," the cleric answered disgustedly. "All you've done since you got here is complain!"

Contrary to what you may have heard, talk is not cheap. Talk is powerful ! What we say is important. Our vocabulary should be filled with words of hope and dreams. Be known as someone who speaks positively and these words in turn bring positivity to your life.

Two words for all of us today “Speak Positive”.

May 19, 2017

The Candy Shop...

A kid walked into a candy shop with his dad and was bedazzled by the array of treats on offer. “What should I choose?  What should I choose?  What should I choose?”  He asked himself.

“Come on son, we don’t have all day,” his dad said.

“These are my favorites.  No wait, these are my favorites.” He walked along the aisles, picking up bags and putting them back. He just couldn’t make up his mind.

“Quick son, make up your mind, we have to go,”  His impatient dad said.

Frantically, the boy ran around the store, his eyes moving from one shelf to another, but all of the options looked so good and he couldn’t make a decision.

Eventually, the dad had enough, grabbed his son by the hand and they walked out of the store empty-handed.  The young boy had tears in his eyes.  He wanted them all, but ended up with nothing because he couldn’t choose just one.

We all are decision makers.

The world is that candy store. We have a myriad of options available to us, but if we don’t choose to decide on anything that’s in front of us – be it our career, education, relationships, investments, or other important issues, we will choose to end up empty-handed.

Sometimes we worry about making the wrong choice. What if we regret the direction that we take and it’s too late to go back?

The bigger danger is when we make no decision at all ,ending up going nowhere than to take a decision and stick to it with all our heart to make it work for us .

Next time you are presented with options in our life and your mind flutters , just remember this “ You empower the decisions you take and there are no good or bad choices.” Choose one and back it with your actions further, you will end up with making it the right choice.

May 12, 2017

Poisonous Herbs

A newly wed girl named Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law .Their personalities were very different and she criticized Li-Li constantly. All the anger and tension was causing great distress.

Weeks passed. Li-Li couldn’t tolerate her mother-in-law' any longer. She went to see an old man Huang, who sold herbs. She asked him for some poisonous herbs so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Huang thought for a while and gave her a package of herbs saying,” These herbs  will act as a slow poison. Add these herbs in her serving every day. To make sure that nobody suspects you, be very careful and remain friendly towards her.Don't argue with her. Obey her wishes and treat her like a queen!"

Months went by. Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law every day. She controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and pretended to treat her like her own mother. Six months had passed, the whole scenario had changed. Li-Li found that her mother-in-law had become much kinder and easier to get along with. The mother-in-law' s attitude towards Li-Li also changed and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter.

Li-Li went back to Huang and begged, "Please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman and I love her. I do not want her to die. Huang smiled and said "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude towards her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.

We do come across people with whom we have trouble  getting along with. But in reality HAVE YOU REALIZED how you feel about others is exactly how they will feel about you? . Next time you come across such thoughts  ,remember “the poison is in your mind and your attitude”.

“It’s true that “Love Begets Love “

May 5, 2017

Never Give up...

There was a cricket batsman  making his debut in Test cricket at the international level . He scored a duck in his first innings and again, in his second innings.

They dropped him. So he went back to the nets for more practice. More first-class cricket. More runs. Waiting for that elusive call to play for his nation. After twenty-one months, he got a second chance.

This time, he tried harder. His scores: 0 in the first innings, 1 in the second. Dropped again. He went back to the grind and scored tonnes of runs in first-class cricket. Runs that seemed inadequate to erase the painful memories of the Test failures. Well, seventeen months later, opportunity knocked yet again. He got to bat in both innings of the Test. His scores: 0 and 0. Phew!

Back to the grind. Would the selectors ever give him another chance? They said he lacked big-match temperament. His technique wasn’t good enough at the highest level. Undaunted, he kept trying.

Three years later, he got another chance. This time, he made runs. He came good and in an illustrious career thereafter, he went on to score over 5000 runs for his nation. That included sixteen centuries and six double hundreds. And he went on to captain his country. All this despite taking over six years to score his second run in Test cricket. Wow! What a guy! This is none other than Marvan Attapattu- one of the Sri Lankan cricketing legends .

How many of us can handle failure as well as he did? Six years of trying, and failing!! He must have been tempted to pursue another career. Change his sport perhaps. Play county cricket. Or, oh well, just give up. But he didn’t and that made the difference.

We all hear stories of talented people who gave up before their potential was realized. People who changed jobs and careers when success seemed elusive.

The next time you are staring at possible failure or rejection, think of Marvan. Remember this: If you don’t give up, if you believe in yourself, if you stay the course, the run will eventually come. What more, you could even become a captain someday and excel in your respective field.

NEVER GIVE UP !

Apr 28, 2017

The Brighter Side...

A  king had a frightening dream. He dreamt that all his teeth has fallen out, one after the other. Very upset about this, he called for a dream interpreter. 

The man listened with great concern to the king’s account of his dream and said to him, “Your Majesty, I have bad news for you. Just as you lost all your teeth, you will lose all of your family, one after the other.” This sad interpretation kindled the king’s rage. The dream interpreter, who had nothing better to say, was thrown in jail at the king’s command. 

Then the king summoned a different dream interpreter. This one heard him tell the dream and then said, “Your Majesty, I have good news for you. You will become older than all of your family. You will outlive them all. Long live the king ”! 

The king rejoiced and rewarded the man richly for saying this. But the courtiers were very surprised. “Your words were really no different from your poor predecessor’s. But why was he punished, while you received a reward?” they asked. The lucky dream interpreter replied, “You are right. We both interpreted the dream in the same way but it is not a question of what you say, but also how you say it.”

Everything in our daily lives has two sides – the bright and the dark or as it is presented to us in reality , the bright and the less bright .The wiser one chooses the brighter side.

Apr 21, 2017

The Salesman...

A Salesman was given a vigorous target of selling $100,000 worth of medical equipment each month, the most on his team, and was expected to somehow get to $140,000.Every month he kept falling short of the target and his old aged boss grew disappointed with him. 

The next day he took the salesman for a coffee and tried to strike a conversation ,”Do you think the market is dull?” The young salesman replied “ I understand the set target ,but in reality it is not that easy. We all know that targets are usually overambitious .Isn’t it ? “

The elderly boss gave a reassuring smile and continued ,”Tell me what would it take for you to sell $200,000 worth of equipment each month”. 

"$200,000!" he shouted. "No! That's impossible. "You don't understand. I want to hit $140,000 a month, and even that is so hard that I don't know how I'll do it and here you fantasize about $200,000.” The boss insisted ,”Just play along ,give it a try seriously assuming that $200,000 is your real target “

The salesman laughed and said "Okay, but remember, we're talking about something that's impossible”. He then started listing things. After he got through the ridiculous ideas, like stealing other people's accounts and cooking the books, he began to think of more ideas. At first it was hard.

"I'd have to be in two places at once," he said. "I'd have to make twice as many presentations as I'm making. I'd have to present to two clients at once!"

Then it hit him. All of a sudden he got the idea that he might be able to stage a large presentation of his product with a number of clients in the room at one time. "I could rent a room at a hotel and have 20 people in for coffee and donuts, and I could make a big deal out of it," he said. A number of other ideas came to him- ways to combine his cold-calling with his travel time, ways to utilize e-mail as a sales tool, how to use the administrative staff better. Ideas poured in while the old aged boss wrote them furiously on a flip pad and handed it over to him saying ,” All your ideas were a result of his thinking big- "How would I sell $200,000 if I absolutely had to?"

He surpassed his goal and achieved over $200,000 sales the very next month.

Many of us become self-satisfied with what we do right now and that is what makes us stagnant .Take a certain goal and double it, Or triple it, Or multiply it by 10. And then ask yourself, quite seriously, what you would have to do to achieve that new goal. You will end up  with ideas that can turn the impossible to possible.

If your goal doesn’t challenge you , it doesn’t change you

Apr 14, 2017

The Falcon

Once there was a king who received a gift of two magnificent falcons. They were peregrine falcons, the most beautiful birds he had ever seen. He gave the precious birds to his head falconer to be trained.

Months passed, and one day the head falconer informed the king that though one of the falcons was flying majestically, soaring high in the sky, the other bird had not moved from its branch since the day it had arrived. The king summoned healers and sorcerers from all the land to tend to the falcon, but no one could make the bird fly.

He presented the task to the member of his court, but the next day, the king saw through the palace window that the bird had still not moved from its perch. Having tried everything else, the king thought to himself, “May be I need someone more familiar with the countryside to understand the nature of this problem.” So he cried out to his court, “Go and get a farmer.”

In the morning, the king was thrilled to see the falcon soaring high above the palace gardens. He said to his court, “Bring to me, the doer of this miracle.”

The court quickly located the farmer, who came and stood before the king. The king asked him, “How did you make the falcon fly?”

With his head bowed, the farmer said to the king, “It was very easy, your highness. I simply cut the branch where the bird was sitting.”

We are all made to fly — to realize our incredible potential as human beings but at times we sit on our branches, clinging to the things that are familiar to us. The possibilities are endless, but for most of us, they remain undiscovered. We conform to the familiar, the comfortable, and the mundane. So for the most part, our lives are mediocre instead of exciting, thrilling and fulfilling. 

Let us learn to destroy the branch of fear we cling to and free ourselves to the glory of flight!

Apr 7, 2017

The Monk

A young man met an accomplished monk and asked him for the secret to success. The Monk asked the young man to meet him near a river the next morning to know about it .

Next morning when they met ,the monk asked the young man to walk with him towards the river. When the water got up to their neck, the monk took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but the monk was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. 

The Monk pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. 

The Monk asked: " What did you want the most when you were there?" The boy replied "Air."

The Monk said "My son, that is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air, then you will get it. There is no other secret.

Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results. A burning desire with a staunch belief is the starting point of all accomplishments. The motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose. 

Whenever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve. 

Mar 31, 2017

Happy by choice...

A man of 92 years, short, very well-presented, who takes great care of his appearance, is moving into an old people's home. After waiting several hours in the retirement home lobby, he gently smiles as he is told that his room is ready.

His wife of 80 has recently died, and he is obliged to leave his home. As he slowly walks to the elevator, using his cane, the room service describes his small room to him, including the sheet hung at the window which serves as a curtain.

"I like it very much", he says, with the enthusiasm of an 8 year old boy. "You haven't even seen the room yet, hang on a moment, we are almost there.", the room service replied.

"That has nothing to do with it ", the old man explained. "It is already decided in my mind that I like my room. It is a decision I take every morning when I wake up. Happiness is something I choose in advance. Whether or not I like the room does not depend on the furniture, or the decor rather it depends on how I decide to see it."

"I can choose. I can spend my day in bed enumerating all the difficulties that I have with the parts of my body that no longer work very well, or I can get up and give thanks to heaven for those parts that are still in working order."

Every day is a gift. Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is alright. It means that you decide to see beyond Imperfections.

Mar 24, 2017

Relax

As an old gentleman walked into a super market, he noticed a small girl crying loudly. She was no older than 2 and was trying to persuade her mom to buy her something she wanted. Her mom just said calmly – “Jennifer, relax.”

The girl immediately started crying even louder. Again, her mom said – “Jennifer, relax.”

By now, the girl had started screaming and was attracting a lot of attention. This time, her mom said calmly – “Jennifer, you don’t want to create a scene in the supermarket. So, relax.”

The man walked to the mom and said – “I am amazed at how calm you are. But, surely, she can’t understand what you’re saying, can she?”

“What makes you think I was talking to her?” – the mom replied.

The quality of your communication with the world determines your impact, but it is the quality of your communication with yourself that determines your happiness. The impact made without happiness is akin to an artificial flower – looks good from a distance but lacks the substance and aroma that makes a flower special.

So, let’s communicate better with ourselves and remember to treat ourselves with infinite patience and kindness. 

And, of course, the next time you find yourself in a situation that tests your patience, remember.. “Jennifer, relax".